So, that's why I'm single? That makes sense....

Single, black ladies, you've gotta check this out. Okay, you don't have to be single or black to read this. There is something to be said about this piece of literature. Give it a go.
http://www.kirkusreviews.com/book-reviews/non-fiction/ralph-richard-banks/marriage-white-people/

You go to school, you work hard, you go to school again. You get that promotion and you keep striving for better. In today's world, that makes you unapproachable or 'un-marryable'. Go figure. So, guys are intimidated by a smart woman. We've been hearing that for a while. What's the kicker is this 'new' finding (okay, not new but now being spoken of). Black women marry beneath themselves. Black women marry men who do not measure up to them simply to get off the single scene and to say that they've got 'someone'. In doing so, they are subject to abuse because, in order for the black man to keep her in check, he has to put her down. He has to convince her that she's not worthy or better otherwise, she would not have been single before he came along. Negro please!

This book states that black women are afraid to step it up and look outside of their race, where it is more likely to find a man more on her level. It has a lot to do with black pride and saving face. I know it sounds ridiculous and to some extent, it is but think about it. White men are more likely to further their education. They're more likely to push for more, to get to the top. I know, I know. There are circumstances that don't allow black men to get to the top-we call it LIFE! On that same note, black men need to strive for more, enhance their education, want more and go get more. You want a strong, educated, intelligent woman? Then, be a strong, educated, intelligent man. Pretty simple, huh? I think so.

On the Doug Banks' morning show, callers made a variety of remarks. One caller said that it had everything to do with culture and slavery. He stated that though women are more intelligent than men, it is due to the fact that they were living in the 'master's' house and was privy to a better type of living. In doing so, the black woman is more likely to be smarter, more intelligent and overall, be more apt to further her education and in turn, make more money. Another caller lamented that black women are too full of themselves and as such can't find a man on their level because men on their level don't want to deal with the 'drama'. 'Two bulls can't reign in the same pen'-Jamaican saying. So, he can't be strong and she can't be strong? How crazy does that sound? You'd think that a strong black man would want a strong black woman-I call that a Powerhouse! But, that's just me. What do I know?! What I do know is that I want it all-I want him strong, intelligent, confident and I can wait-if waiting means that I'll get just that. Yep, I said it!

Well, I will not apologize for being intelligent or wanting more for myself. I make no excuses for not 'settling' just to say I have a man. I've said it before-I love me enough to not settle. I think I'm going to get this book and see what else it entails....if for nothing else, it should make for a few hours of good reading.