I'm Irreplaceable; you're not!

 What? You deleted me? Damn, you beat me to it!!!

 I've realized that with time, people will mess up. Yes, me too. We're human but in being human, we must confess that when we lose some things/people, it's for the best. You may not realize it at the time but in the long run, it all makes itself clear. And you know what, here's the old cliche`-if it was meant to be......blah, blah, blah.

I see a pattern here. As of late, as in the last month and a half, I've been removed from three people's FB 'friend' list and you know what, I haven't felt better. With one person, I didn't even realize that I was gone-because I didn't really talk to her in the first place-never went on her page. I had to be alerted by someone else and guess what? Uhm, who cares? So, I guess if it was just one person, I could say it was them, but three is rather indicative of a pattern, where the underlying culprit is ME. And I'm okay with that, because honestly, with all three, I was in the right-and I'm not just saying that.

And what grown person deletes someone from a social network site anyway? I mean, come on. And what type of mature person gives a hoot if they do? In all actuality, it just says a lot about your 'relationship'. It wasn't all it was cracked up to be if that's the lack of respect you were shown in its demise.

In my own, sadistic way, I pushed all three there because I didn't want to be hurtful. I have been known to be abrasive and a wee bit too straight forward, uncensored and it has been said that I have no filter. Guilty as charged-I am just those things.

It seems FB has become the end all, be all for communication and so if you remove or are removed, that ends and seals the end of that relationship. Thank God for those young bucks who came up with it. Sad but true, Facebook has allowed us not to have to make that awkward phonecall nor do we have to explain anything either because more than likely, prior to the deletion, there were posts targeting the 'deletee', sending clear messages that it was coming. It might have been no responses like there used to be or posts that sound like they were typed just for you. More than likely, they were.

But, here's my thing. Don't delete me and then try to come back. You were weak when you did it, huh? Probably mad too. Too bad. No takebacks :-) Man up and do it the right way. Don't go through FB-Holla at me!!!

And all that is a precursor to my rant on Fall cleaning. Why is it so damn hard for us to let go? I mean, really? Life is too short to hold on to people who for lack of a better term, do not enhance your life. If your thoughts of them bring frown lines to your face and an elevated BP, then, thank your high heavens you are no longer a part of their life

Fall is the season of rebirth. I love Fall. The colors change, the air is fresher-the colors bright. It's prime time for new beginnings. You don't have to wait for the new year to make those resolutions.  It's the end of the fun Summer and just before the dormant Winter. The perfect time to reevaluate and prepare for the New Year. Take the Fall as a chance to practice, to try things anew, to get it going. To let go and let God take over the reigns. Okay, so it didn't work out. That's fine. They are no longer in your life. That's okay too. We've all heard it. Nothing lasts forever....and ain't that the truth? So, take each day as it comes and make it just that...today....and live for it. Live for today. Let go of those who don't mean you well, who snicker behind your back, who only use and abuse, who mistreat and retreat, who block and mock, who retreat instead of complete you, who hate, instead of appreciate. I'm no fisherwoman but I know that there are more fish in the sea and as such, I'll keep on throwing my rod out and waiting to see what bites.

I'm thirty-plus and independent, stubborn as hell and one proud woman. I've done things I'm not proud of but without hesitation, I can say that  I've been true to me and to those I love and have loved. And when that chapter ends, I can close that book, put it away and open another. I don't know about you but I usually don't read the same book twice...unless of course it's one that left such and impressionable mark that it has etched its memory on my brain (The Art of Racing in the Rain-Garth Stein-just saying-check it out. You won't regret it). Only then will I say it's worth another chance, only then will I surrender to the memory of the unforgettable. Only then will I try again. Only then will I risk a potential friendship/love/relationship/partner.  Other than that, it's time to keep it moving, even run sometimes-because the devil trains with Usain Bolt :-)

And it's not only females. I've found that guys I meet these days have so much baggage-they're holding on to.  That one they let go-that one who they've been with for so long but didn't appreciate them when they had them-that one who, to be honest wasn't for them anyway and who they wish would give them a chance-only to mess it up again anyway. It wasn't meant to be. Let it go. Stop allowing possible to pass you by for comfortable. Stop becoming a memory for new loves-new hearts, because you're too weak to walk away from what you allowed to stray in the first place. What becomes of that? Well, you lose out on something potentially wonderful, potentially beautiful, endearing, long lasting-because you stupidly couldn't let go. It's okay to love and lose in love. Just know how to love and when loving, love with your whole heart so that when/if it doesn't make it to fruition, you can let go with a clear conscience and heart. That's how the cookie crumbles, my friend!

Friendships end when they weren't built on a strong, honest foundation. Love ends when trust and respect are only a thought that has no longevity. It's hard these days to have lasting relationships-so when you find them, hold on tight and when they're beginning to drain the life out of you, let them go....let them go...let them go....
It's okay to let goLife is too damn short!